The first day we brought E home, C was very clingy with me. I'd never been apart from him so my hospital stay was a bit unsettling for him. Chris told me that he had been waking up in the middle of the night screaming. In these early days I really found it hard to divide my time between a newborn who constantly wanted feeding and a toddler who missed his mummy and wanted to be reassured.
E's cry scared C so he was a little withdrawn and trying to get the two of them to bed at night was a little difficult as they would wake each other with any sound they made.
After a few weeks, we found our feet and got into a routine. When E napped, C and I could have some mummy/son time doing whatever he wanted to do and I didn't have to worry about him feeling left out.
Seven months on, I feel like a pro. I feel like I've been doing this forever. I feel like I can divide my time equally between both children and keep them both happy. It helps now that E can walk about in her walker. They now play with each other and keep each other entertained.
Sometimes C does get a little frustrated when I can't help him with certain things because I'm feeding or changing E. He has very little patience but I think that's our only struggle.